Life is so simple. We like to complicate it.
If in January you would tell me that by the end of May I’d be done with the corporate world, I’d tell you that you are crazy.
If in February you’d tell me that by May I’d end my relationship, I’d say, “yeah, right.”
And if at the beginning of June you had told me that at the end of July I’d move back to Romania for a period of time, I’d say you are totally insane.
At the beginning of 2025, I was in full control of my life. Or at least that’s what I thought.
Everything was going according to my plan, under very safe control.
Yeah, right.
But guess what? Still not feeling fulfilled on the inside.
Why? Because I kept on hearing my gut feeling, but I would ignore it.
Although I loved the corporate world—and yes, I’d do it all over again—my inner voice kept saying: “That’s it, time for a change.”
It wasn’t about it anymore; I was drifting away from my mission, and it couldn’t wait any longer.
When it comes to relationships, when it feels like sacrifice or being forced, you should listen to that voice inside you.
Ask yourself: “Did I do everything I could to make it work?” When the answer is yes, you should know what your next step is.
I loved my 6 years in the Netherlands; I’d do this once again as well if I could go back in time.
But for the past months—almost a year—I couldn’t feel entirely part of it anymore. It kept on feeling like it was a chapter whose time had come to end, but I kept on postponing it.
As I say, I broke up three times in three months: corporate world, boyfriend, and country.
Did I have control here? Did I know 100% that what’s next would work out?
Never ever, not even today.
But what I can tell you for sure is that after each of these decisions—pursuing my mission instead of the corporate world, never again settling for what’s not fully aligned with my core values and principles in a relationship, and moving to Romania for a while—after each of these decisions, I felt deep relief.
With each decision taken, I felt peace; it felt like getting back and closer to myself.
And ever since, this feeling keeps on going.
The more we try to control life and get things done OUR way, the harder it gets.
The more we listen to that inner voice—to what is aligned with our authentic self—and follow that path, the easier it gets. You have a higher force that supports you on this journey.
No one said it’s going to be all rainbows and unicorns.
You will still face fears, especially at the beginning.
You will still want to control things because this is what you’ve done for years and years.
You won’t have it all figured out.
But what I know for sure is that you will get it all sorted and figured out along the way—walking the path step by step and letting it unfold, without pressuring yourself to know EXACTLY what’s waiting for you at the finish line.
Know that something extraordinary is waiting for you; do your part of the job and take action, and you will be surprised by what’s waiting for you there.
The moment I decided to fully pursue my mission and focus on developing my business, I had no clue what would wait for me at the finish line. And I still don’t know the HOW of every action. But I know it will reveal itself at the right time.
I used to stress out so much (kind reminder: control used to be one of my superpowers).
Until I decided to walk this path step by step, trust the process, and do my part.
And guess what? Every step I’d take, the next step would reveal itself.
But I never stopped trusting the process. That feeling of peace inside and feeling so aligned is the answer that I need.
When you take such decisions, even more starts changing.
It’s a message you send out there that you are not settling anymore for anything less than the BEST for you.
And this is when things you could never imagine start to unfold.
Another thing that I decided to change is linked to the people around me.
You sense how you feel around certain people: some recharge you, and some drain you.
For many years—maybe too many years—I didn’t want to upset people, and I would close my eyes and pretend everything was fine. But this was draining me.
I would go out just to check it off and get back home feeling drained. So I kept surrounding myself with such people because, in life, you get what you tolerate.
You know, those meaningless conversations: “Oh, how are you?”, “The weather is so nice today!”, “What are you doing this weekend?”
I was drained and DONE with it, and I decided that I will no longer keep people in my life who are not aligned with who I am—whether in business, friendships, relationships, or otherwise.
It’s not selfish. Think of it: you choose to spend time with someone out of obligation, screaming deep inside you “not agaaaain” but smiling on the outside. You fake it and disrespect the person in that moment. I wouldn’t want anyone to feel or think like that about me. I’d rather have that person not meet me. I have almost zero tolerance for double standards; thus, I’d rather not do to someone what I wouldn’t like done to me.
So I started to stop seeing, cooperating, or interacting too much with certain people. It’s a process, and I keep on doing it an ongoing basis if it doesn’t feel aligned with me. It feels right on the inside, and that’s when I have my answer that it’s the right decision.
In life, everyone evolves at their own pace. Some people evolve at your pace, and you continue together along the journey. But some people are meant just for a part of the journey—and then, why force and control things?
Nothing that feels forced leads to fulfillment and alignment.
As I started to do this, new people—aligned with who I am becoming—started to enter my life and keep showing up. Some out of nowhere, some in ways I would never picture or make happen out of control. Because when you free what no longer serves you, you attract your people—those who make you feel full, aligned, fulfilled, at peace, and who challenge you in the best possible way to keep on evolving and following your path.
You get access to resources you could never imagine before.
I write this post after three months since I started to fully focus on my business and moved to Romania, and every day I just have such a deep feeling of gratitude for what happened to me this year and for what keeps on happening to me.
The irony? These best things that happened and are happening are things I didn’t plan for, manifesting through ways beyond my rational understanding.
And looking back at my life, it was always like this. The best things in my life were always those I didn’t try to control—those that felt aligned with me and that I followed, doing my part.
Again, it doesn’t mean I have everything sorted and that I just go with the flow without trying to control. Haha… I wish. This overthinking and overplanning behavior doesn’t go away overnight.
What I do now, as much as possible, is catch it (your tendency to control). And the more you do this exercise, the more frequently you’ll catch it. And then, that’s when I calm the mind. That’s when I remind myself that I have a part of the “job” to deliver, and for the other part of the job, a higher force takes care of it. It’s teamwork. And then I also remind myself of all the amazing things that happened in my life in the past, out of my control, and how those turned into the best experiences.
You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to start. Step by step.
You’ve got this!
